My two cents which I mentioned to you elsewhere is to remember your retail experiences with management. Your room mate and yourself should each put together a formal letter summarizing your sides of what happened, and send a copy to all of the parties involved. Otherwise it turns into a game of he-said-she-said, and it's entirely possible that there will be or are now people involved who have only heard what happened from and through other people.
I can sort of see where he was coming from. I'm sure there are students there prone to knee-jerk rebelliousness and belligerence, and he probably had a not entirely unreasonable assumption given likely past experiences with those other students that you two were just blowing him off about moving the beds. So, another strike against him is in not taking the time or caring enough to understand that each student is different... still, even thinking that way, getting someone female to watch instead of him or with him after being told he was making you both uncomfortable was a major screwup. Sounds like the staff could use a non-harassment seminar. In my opinion it's a no-brainer for someone working in a coed dorm* to immediately pick up on what your room mate was requesting and why they were asking it.
and if it *isn't* coed, then the organization is seriously screwing up just by putting that guy in this situation without sufficient training.
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Date: 2009-09-20 04:50 pm (UTC)I can sort of see where he was coming from. I'm sure there are students there prone to knee-jerk rebelliousness and belligerence, and he probably had a not entirely unreasonable assumption given likely past experiences with those other students that you two were just blowing him off about moving the beds. So, another strike against him is in not taking the time or caring enough to understand that each student is different... still, even thinking that way, getting someone female to watch instead of him or with him after being told he was making you both uncomfortable was a major screwup. Sounds like the staff could use a non-harassment seminar. In my opinion it's a no-brainer for someone working in a coed dorm* to immediately pick up on what your room mate was requesting and why they were asking it.
and if it *isn't* coed, then the organization is seriously screwing up just by putting that guy in this situation without sufficient training.